Us grievers live on a roller coaster of emotions. It is a scary ride. One second we are up and the next second we are down. We feel out of control. It is just the way it is. It is normal. If you are new to grief then most likely you are spending more time sad than happy. Trust me that is going to change. Eventually there will be more smiles than tears. It’s a promise. I am happy to be the voice of hope. This ride is going to get better.
Let the grief happen. Take however long it takes. Use your instincts to get through it or counseling or a bereavement group. Whatever it takes. Always keep in my mind that your loved ones want you to go on, live your life and be OK. Honor them by doing just that. It’s hard work. Remember you are stronger than you think. You CAN do this.
Suddenly, without warning, change happens. At least that is the way it was for me. I did not recognize it at first. I am the same person, but I am different. It is a transformation. I am smiling more. I am laughing and not feeling guilty about it. I am engaging in activities and having fun. When the heck did that happen? My William is happy about this. I just know it.
Somehow, our brains and hearts learn to adapt. It must be some kind of evolutionary survival thing. The pain is still there. I expect and accept it will always be, but it is as if it is tucked away in a safety deposit box. Like a precious piece of jewelry only to be worn on special occasions.
Talk about special occasions today is the day I announce the winner of my, “This is for Meghan” good deed give away. Thanks to everyone who did an act of kindness in her honor. Your support has meant a great deal to her dad. Congratulations to Louis Matino for winning the Cuisinart Griddler.
Another special occasion coming up is the Super Bowl, so I am sharing a great game day recipe. Instead of serving the usual crackers and crostini at this year’s party try making this easy quick bread. Made with whole wheat flour (healthy) and beer (any brew will do), its perfect slices make a great platform for cheese spreads and sandwiches. Did I mention it has beer in it?…….a football party staple. Have fun and enjoy yourself.
[recipe title=”Quick Whole Wheat Beer Bread” servings=”1 loaf”]
1 ½ cups 100% whole wheat flour
1 ½ cups all purpose flour
¼ cup firmly packed dark brown sugar
1 tablespoon baking powder
1 teaspoon salt
½ teaspoon Asian five spice
1 (12 oz) bottle of beer
2 tablespoons butter, melted
Heat oven 375F. Spray 8×4 or 9×5-inch loaf pan with no-stick baking spray. In large bowl, combine flours, brown sugar, baking powder, salt and spice. Add beer, all at once, and stir just until dry ingredients are moistened; do not over mix. Spoon batter evenly into loaf pan. Drizzle or brush melted butter evenly over the top. Bake 50 to 55 minutes or until golden brown on top and instant read thermometer measures about 205F. Cool 5 minutes in pan. Turn out onto wire rack and cool completely.[/recipe]
Note: this recipe is adapted from Heckers