Last Updated on April 23, 2026 by Lisa Keys
Teen grief. How does a teen deal with loss? Let them speak. Be a listener. How a teen celebrates a hero is a simple act of love and respect that we can all learn from.
Her grandpa was a man of service. He not only served in the US Navy, but gave 40 years of service as a volunteer fireman. What kind of a person is willing to run into a burning building to rescue a complete stranger? A selfless hero, that's who.
His name is Henry, but his friends and family called him Hank. Truly a privilege to know him, Hank was not only a hero, but also a devoted grandpa to my niece and nephew, Ava and Cole. To serve Not To Be Served...Hank instilled this in them.
Both Ava and Cole have devoted years of service to the organization, Students Helping Honduras. In fact, Ava is actively fund-raising for these kids as I type. This organization supports education by building schools throughout rural Honduras. Truly a labor of love on their part and a beautiful tribute to the legacy of their grandfather who encouraged and supported them in such endeavors.
Teen Grief
Ava had the courage to speak at Hank's funeral. She stood at the podium beside her mom. Through her tears she recalled the many memories made with her grandfather. "He taught me how to make ravioli…a Christmas tradition I will carry on and one day teach to my own children." And then she smiled. "While my friends were spending their spring breaks in the Bahamas, I was visiting my grandpa in NC. It was there I learned how to shoot a gun popping tin cans and balloon targets."
However, it was her final words that touched my heart the most. "I kept hoping he would find more loose ends that needed tying up." Ava came home from college to comfort her grandfather in his final days. She wanted more time. The price we pay for love. When a teen celebrates a hero or anyone else be there to listen. Their unique way of expressing teen grief is inspiring.
Finally, I want to thank Hank for being a devoted Navy brother to William. While in NC, Hank always took the time to pay his respects by placing a wreath at the roadside tribute.
Evelyn Matino says
Lisa,
Your words were heartfelt, beautiful and so true!
I’m honored to be in such a loving, caring family!
Love to all, Auntie Ev ❤️
Lisa says
Your goddaughter has an incredible strength. We are fortunate to be so close in hearts.
Tracy says
My Dad and William were very special souls. Thank you for your love, support and beautiful words. The strength of our family gets us through the tough times.
Lisa says
Love always! You raised such strong children.
Lou says
Thanks Ev!
Lou says
Lisa - this is a beautiful tribute as well as great advice. I actually was discouraging Ava from visiting her grandpa before he died, thinking it would be better if she didn't leave school or see him as he became more frail. How wrong I was. Her presence was so uplifting for both of them and contributed to him having a peaceful heart before his death. I hope people will read your blog and understand the power that a loving grandchild can bring to someone not long for this Earth.
Lisa says
You said it so much better than I ever could. What a glorious thing to witness. I'm glad you heard what she and ultimately Hank needed.