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The Most Lovely Grief Poem

Painted blue heart for a lovely grief poem.
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I came across this lovely poem by Nancy Cross Dunham on the Modern Loss Facebook Page. I highly recommend this group for grief support.

what I’m learning about grief …

is that it need not be

a heavy gray shawl

to wrap myself in,

clutching my arms tightly

across my chest

nor …

need it be

a granite rock

that I should try

to push away

neither is it …

… at least, no longer …

a vast dark ocean

ready to pick me up

and slap me down

without warning

what I’m learning about grief …

is that it is not me,

but that it offers

to become a friend

a friend …

who will lightly lay a hand

on my shoulder

when tears come in the dark

a friend …

who will laugh

out loud with me

at remembered silly moments

a friend …

who can still hear

the music of our life

what I’m learning about grief …

is that this friend

doesn’t intend

to leave me

but promises

to hold my hand

to carry my memories

a friend …

who will bear witness to my love

as I venture

toward the next day

and the following night

Reader Interactions

Comments

  1. cookinformyboys

    April 26, 2020 at 9:46 am

    Deeply touching 💙

    Reply
    • Lisa

      April 26, 2020 at 11:43 am

      I think so, too. Glad it resonated with you <3

      Reply
  2. Tracy

    April 26, 2020 at 12:01 pm

    Absolutely beautiful….

    Reply
    • Lisa

      April 26, 2020 at 12:06 pm

      hope you are doing well during this difficult time <3

      Reply
  3. Wendy Liebling

    April 26, 2020 at 7:39 pm

    very beautiful poem, thank you. {{{ virtual hugs }}}

    Reply
    • Lisa

      April 27, 2020 at 6:30 am

      Can’t wait until we hug in person and to think we should be in Sicily right now

      Reply
  4. [email protected]

    April 26, 2020 at 10:43 pm

    Beautiful Poem.

    Reply
    • Lisa

      April 27, 2020 at 6:31 am

      Always admire the poet who uses so few words to convey so much to the reader

      Reply
      • [email protected]

        April 27, 2020 at 11:43 pm

        Me too

  5. Krista

    April 27, 2020 at 7:19 am

    Beautiful ❤️

    Reply
    • Lisa

      April 27, 2020 at 8:20 pm

      Glad you think so, too.

      Reply
  6. rainbowwayfarms

    April 27, 2020 at 8:13 pm

    So beautiful! ❤️ We love you so much!

    Reply
    • Lisa

      April 27, 2020 at 8:21 pm

      Kate is so talented and I am lucky to have you all here. <3

      Reply
  7. Nancy Cross Dunham

    January 12, 2022 at 2:35 pm

    Lisa, Thanks for sharing my poem with your group. It has meant a lot to me – to write it as well as to have it shared with others. The sharing of it has been most healing to me.

    Reply
    • Lisa

      January 29, 2022 at 4:38 pm

      Your writing so beautifully captures what I feel. Thanks for being here.

      Reply

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