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Never A Good Time To Say Good-Bye

Black dog looking over the couch.
somebody is hungry

Good and faithful friends are hard to find, but saying good-bye to one is even harder. This is one very tough time.

Black dog looking over the couch.
they shared the same birthday

It’s been 15 years since this sweet fur baby found her forever home with us. She was discovered abandoned in a box on a soccer field in Winston-Salem, NC. At the time, my daughter was a college student there at Wake Forest University, home to the Demon Deacons. With school colors of black and gold, it was a natural fit to name this rambunctious puppy, Deacon.

Older dog laying down wearing scarf.
She did have a certain fashion sense like her sister

For all those pet lovers out there I know you get it when I say that Deacon wasn’t just a pet, but a full-fledged member of the family. Her status as “third child” well-deserved. Like most children she loved nothing more than a few good treats, play time and praise. And like a child she was pretty much this mama’s shadow, not wanting to be in my lap, but just keeping me in her sights.

Older dog laying down.
under-foot in the kitchen hoping I drop something good to eat

This was a heart-wrenching week as we made the decision along with the Vet to euthanize our beloved dog. I have never felt such selfish guilt in my heart even though my brain knew it was the right thing to do. As I sat scratching her neck in the Vet’s exam room I was grateful for sharing one last walk around the garden with her, letting her snack on some cheese and telling her how much I loved her. I told her how great it would be to see her brother now.

Never a good time to say good-bye to our dog wearing a patriotic bandana.
William’s Homecoming

Here is the link to a previous blog post featuring Deacon’s favorite homemade dog biscuits.

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  1. James Matino

    May 17, 2020 at 7:22 am

    Tough end of life decision to make for a dear member of the family. Nobody can put a value on a pet, so I grieve with you for the loss of your wonderful dog, Deacon. Lexie is getting close to the end of the road, too. We have a dog whisperer in our neighborhood who told me that she is not ready to go yet, and she needs my permission to leave this world. She still enjoys eating so much that she is just not there yet. Hard decisions.

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    • Lisa

      May 17, 2020 at 7:39 am

      It is so difficult to know their level of pain and suffering, but Deacon showed clear signs with incontinence, significant weight loss and weakness in her legs that caused her to lose balance. She otherwise seemed happy to just be, thus, the heart-wrenching decision. The price we pay in sadness for the love of a good pet is high. Wishing you and Lexie a peace as you navigate this one.

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  2. Carol Walsh

    May 17, 2020 at 8:20 am

    I am so sorry to hear about Deacon, she was such a beloved part of your family for many years. What a great life she had with all of you! It is so heart wrenching when we have to make that decision to put them down, even when we know it’s time. I feel for you and Bill and am sending warm hugs your way. A boy and his dog are reunited for sure. <3

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    • Lisa

      May 17, 2020 at 11:56 am

      Really hope those two along with Colleen are running around the woods somewhere….only good thoughts <3

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  3. patcook1

    May 17, 2020 at 8:56 am

    So sorry for your loss of Deacon.

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    • Lisa

      May 17, 2020 at 11:55 am

      thanks dear friend

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  4. Lou

    May 17, 2020 at 9:09 am

    One ot the saddest realities of life is that this is always how it ends. Deacon was a great companion and had such a good temperament. We will miss her. I’m very sorry for your loss but grateful that you and Bill gave her 15 wonderful years when it could have turned out much differently for her. Best wishes.

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    • Lisa

      May 17, 2020 at 11:54 am

      I can’t say enough about how great rescue dogs are and will always be grateful that both of our dogs lived 15 wonderful years…totally worth the heartache in the end.

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  5. Bonnie Welch

    May 17, 2020 at 10:57 am

    Oh Lisa…this is one of the hardest decisions. I have had to do it several times, but it breaks your heart every time. Having a vet you trust who can help you make the decision with your dear one in mind. Sending you and Bill love.

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    • Lisa

      May 17, 2020 at 11:53 am

      Thank you Bonnie. Yes, when your heart is so conflicted the Vet is such a key ingredient in the decision making process.

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  6. Laura M Bailey

    May 17, 2020 at 10:58 am

    Well great….the lump in my throat is strangling me, heartbroken and a sopping, weeping mess.
    Aren’t we a pair? I’d hug you if I could but know I’m heartbroken with you.

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    • Lisa

      May 17, 2020 at 11:51 am

      empathy is such an incredible emotion that makes you such a beautiful human being….thank you for being here during life’s hard moments <3

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      • Laura M Bailey

        May 17, 2020 at 1:28 pm

        💕😭 I’m so sorry, Lisa.

      • Lisa

        May 17, 2020 at 5:16 pm

        thank you <3

  7. Krista

    May 17, 2020 at 5:24 pm

    I’m so sorry Lisa. It’s so hard.
    We lost our dog Murphy just a year after Aidan died
    The only thing that got us trough were the thoughts of him and AJ being together again
    I still cry when I think of Murphy sitting with me for hours quietly while I cried
    ❤️😘

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  8. Lisa

    May 18, 2020 at 4:08 pm

    I just love the name Murphy and he sounds like such a loving and devoted boy. I agree that the only consolation is the thought of our boys and their dogs reuniting. Much love to you <3

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  9. HelenF

    May 20, 2020 at 6:32 pm

    Lisa, I’m so sorry for the loss of your loving friend.

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    • Lisa

      May 20, 2020 at 8:01 pm

      Very kind of you. Thank you. <3

      Reply

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