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What Not To Say...Add it to the list

Published: Feb 19, 2017 · Modified: Jun 22, 2024 by Lisa Keys · This post may contain affiliate links · 19 Comments

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Last Updated on June 22, 2024 by Lisa Keys

Grief poem.

It’s been 2,136 days or 5 years, 10 months, and 3 days since I lost my son. By now I thought I had heard every heartfelt, but misguided thing a person could muster in an attempt to comfort me. Remember this blog post about what not to say?  Well, I was wrong in thinking I had heard it all. Let’s add 1 more to the list of what not to say.

William x-country skiing.
North Conway 1997

Do NOT say to a grieving parent who is now a grandparent: “You must be all better now that you have a grandchild.”  Honestly, I am not trying to be harsh here. I understand if you have never been through the loss of a child that you can’t know how one feels, but common sense should dictate that one child could never replace another. Each child is their own unique joy. Each child has their own unique place in a parent's/grandparent’s heart. A parent does not ever forget about the lost child by filling the void with another. When I think back on that moment, I am 100% certain I caused great discomfort to the person who was hoping I was better now. Without warning tears and quite possibly rage welled my eyes and the person made a quick exit stage right.

kids x-country skiing.

Thanks for letting me vent today. Now let's just get comfortable with a steaming hot, nourishing bowl of soup. We just had our first snow, so let's warm up with a hearty wild rice & chicken version. This recipe packs a bit of smoky spice and chocolate because after all it's still Valentine's week. Enjoy.

“Soup puts the heart at ease and calms

down the violence of hunger”

~ Escoffier

Wild rice chicken soup.
wild rice chicken soup
Wild rice chicken soup.

Wild Rice Chicken Soup

Lisa Keys
Warm spices make this soup so comforting
5 from 3 votes
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Prep Time 15 minutes mins
Cook Time 1 hour hr
Total Time 1 hour hr 15 minutes mins
Course Soup
Cuisine Mexican
Servings 6
Calories 327 kcal

Ingredients
  

  • 2 tablespoons olive oil
  • 1 medium onion, finely chopped
  • 1 medium red bell pepper, finely chopped
  • 1 medium orange bell pepper, finely chopped
  • 1 clove garlic, minced
  • 1 tablespoon chili powder
  • 1 teaspoon cumin
  • 1 teaspoon unsweetened cocoa powder
  • ½ teaspoon Mexican oregano
  • ½ teaspoon smoked paprika
  • Pinch red pepper flakes
  • ½ teaspoon kosher salt
  • Fresh ground back pepper
  • 1 (14 oz.) can petite diced tomatoes
  • 1 (14.5 oz.) diced tomatoes with green chilies
  • 4 cups chicken stock
  • 1 cup wild rice
  • 4 boneless, skinless chicken thighs, diced
  • ¾ cup fresh or frozen corn kernels

Instructions
 

  • Heat the olive oil in a large pot.
  • Add the onion and peppers and cook, stirring occasionally, over moderately high heat until the onions are soft, about 5 minutes. Add garlic and cook for 1 minute. Add the chili powder, cumin, cocoa, oregano, smoked paprika, red pepper, salt and a few turns of black pepper; cook 1 to 2 minutes or until fragrant.
  • Stir in the tomatoes, tomatoes with chilies, chicken stock and wild rice; bring to boil.
  • Add the chicken. Reduce heat and simmer until the chicken is cooked through and the rice is tender and puffy, about 40 to 45 minutes. Stir in the corn. Ladle the soup into bowls.
  • Garnish with fresh herbs, sour cream and crispy tortilla strips, if desired

Nutrition

Calories: 327kcalCarbohydrates: 35gProtein: 24gFat: 11gSaturated Fat: 2gPolyunsaturated Fat: 2gMonounsaturated Fat: 6gTrans Fat: 0.01gCholesterol: 76mgSodium: 517mgPotassium: 660mgFiber: 4gSugar: 7gVitamin A: 1.803IUVitamin C: 54mgCalcium: 34mgIron: 2mg
Keyword chicken, easy meal, healthy, main dish, wild rice
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  1. Lou Matino

    February 19, 2017 at 7:51 am

    As you say, that person was well intentioned but the phrasing of their intended message was an epic fail. It's unfortunate but best way to deal with it is vent and move on. Mission accomplished.

    Reply
    • Lisa

      February 19, 2017 at 7:59 am

      just another blog teaching moment

      Reply
  2. cookinformyboys

    February 19, 2017 at 10:52 am

    UGH!! Perhaps we can just slip another child in place of one of your children? Would that work for you? I'm sorry. Just when you think you've heard all of the misconstrued comforting? words. But I must say, I need to try your soup recipe because the flavor profile is spectacular! LOVE the ski pics!

    Reply
    • Lisa

      February 19, 2017 at 2:12 pm

      hard to imagine someone saying this but as my dad used to say truth is stranger than fiction. The soup is really a meal and will definitely satisfy a Tex-Mex craving

      Reply
  3. Lisbeth

    February 19, 2017 at 11:22 am

    Sending you love ❤️

    xo

    Lis

    >

    Reply
    • Lisa

      February 19, 2017 at 2:12 pm

      thank you

      Reply
  4. Danielle

    February 19, 2017 at 11:43 am

    ❤️ I'm sure being a grandma is so heartwarming but still...sometimes people don't know what to say but I find in those moments best not to say anything at all 🙂 xoxo

    Reply
    • Lisa

      February 19, 2017 at 2:15 pm

      Being a grandma is such a wonderful experience. Annabelle is such a delight and watching my daughter be such a fantastic mother tells me I did something right.

      BTW-you are very wise for one so young <3

      Reply
  5. Chelsea Madren

    February 19, 2017 at 12:27 pm

    What you say is totally true! I still have a whole my heart with the loss of my baby. I can't imagine anything replacing that. People always tell me to get a puppy and you'll feel better. Totally not the same! Love ya, Mama Keys!

    Reply
    • Lisa

      February 19, 2017 at 2:16 pm

      Oh Chelsea I am so, so sorry for your loss. A puppy????? Good lord people are crazy.

      Reply
  6. Simply Splendid Food

    February 19, 2017 at 1:14 pm

    A thoughtless remark given to you regarding your deceased child. It is the worst kind of grief. The sadness and grief must be too much to bear at times. May your joyful memories give you some comfort my dear! ◔‿◔

    Reply
    • Lisa

      February 19, 2017 at 2:19 pm

      Thank you for your comments today Simply Splendid Food. I really appreciate your kind words. We learn to balance our grief as time goes on but at times we can be easily thrown off balance when we least expect it.

      Reply
  7. Ronna F

    February 19, 2017 at 1:43 pm

    5 stars
    There's a family that I've known since my 37 year old daughter was in the second grade. Their daughter that my daughter went to school with died in her sleep on February 8. How devastating this is for their family and all who loved her. Parents should not bury their children, but it happens more often than we know. Sending you love and hugs Lisa. You are one amazing woman! <3

    Reply
    • Lisa

      February 19, 2017 at 2:21 pm

      I am so very sorry to hear this news. I always say I would not wish the grief of losing a child (no matter the age) on my worst enemy and a sudden death like this one is hardest of all to bare. Be present for your friends as I know they will find comfort in you and your daughter. I love it most when someone shares a story about my son. Maybe you have stories to share, too.

      Reply
  8. Marcie

    February 19, 2017 at 6:26 pm

    Yup, someone recently said to me, "At least you have 2 other boys." Seriously. I just said that if I lost one of my limbs, nobody would say, "at least you have 3 others!" It's just mindless, when people want to fill the uncomfortable silence. XOXO

    Reply
    • Lisa

      February 19, 2017 at 6:51 pm

      absolutely mindless...can't make this stuff up, Marcie.As far as the uncomfortable silence--people need to understand that their silent presence is enough <3

      Reply
  9. Mary H

    February 20, 2017 at 10:22 am

    5 stars
    People can be so thoughtless, without even meaning to. Sorry you had to experience that, Lisa.

    Reply
    • Lisa

      February 20, 2017 at 10:33 am

      I hope I can turn my experience into a teaching moment here.....finding a silver lining I suppose.

      Reply
  10. Lisa Keys

    February 09, 2025 at 10:58 am

    5 stars
    Award winning and perfect comfort food.

    Reply

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