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Ants On a Log Survival How to Help a Grieving Friend

Published: Nov 9, 2013 · Modified: Jun 27, 2024 by Lisa Keys · This post may contain affiliate links · 8 Comments

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Last Updated on June 27, 2024 by Lisa Keys

ants on a log phyllo cups

Ants on a Log

Fight or flight survival mode kicks in pretty much immediately with the news of  a sudden death.  There is an explosion going on in the brain and devastation in the heart. How does one pick up the pieces and move forward?  How can one think or do anything? Does one take cover or run away? One can’t breathe as the heart races for answers. Inability to make a decision turns me into a robot. I am happy to hand the remote control to whoever will take it. Being a robot is how I survived the first week.

Thankfully, certain extraordinary friends took the remote and led me around. This is another key way to be helpful when one just doesn’t know what to do.  Don’t be afraid to simply ask, “what do you need right now to survive this?” Then spring into action with whatever talents you can offer. Food, yard work, babysitting, running errands........

Jason, the navy chaplain who delivered the blow offers to plan the funeral, but Dennis, a friend and pastor who knows William doesn’t hesitate to collaborate. Dennis goes above and beyond traveling from his church in Massachusetts during Easter week.  My friends, Carol, Ann, Bev and Diane, spring into action offering their homes to any marines and sailors coming to the services. They know it is important to me to have these special visitors feel like family. My friend Lynn flies in from TN and never leaves my side. She helps me get dressed, tells me where to be and makes me eat. She is watching over my husband and daughter, too.

When Maria, whose daughter is a close friend and schoolmate of William's, calls to be helpful my only response is, “I think I need to have a party after the funeral. I always do all my own cooking for parties, but I don’t think I can do this. Can you please recommend a caterer?” Maria takes care of it. The next thing I know we are having a wake on William’s 23rd birthday and a funeral and a party at The Taft School that honors my son like I never imagined.  Between six to seven hundred people show up to celebrate him. He is clearly “more bad-ass today (even in death) than he was yesterday”. So many to thank! Yes, help me keep up with correspondence.

That “bad-ass” phrase is one of William’s favorites and one he often uses to describe his learning of survival skills in the woods. I remember him wanting to read everything about marine, Scott O’Grady who was shot down in Bosnia in 1995 and survived 6 days in enemy territory before being rescued. Will, age 7,  is fascinated by the fact that O’Grady evades detection by camouflage and survives by eating ants.

Will drenched in mud camouflage.
apparently no one could find him hiding in the tree that day

Fast forward to the teen years. One of my all-time favorite Will Keys stories involves Pastor Dennis’ daughter Abby. William and Abby are long-time friends and spending the summer together life guarding at the local lake. One day Abby comes home from the lake and asks her mother, “Mom do you know that ants taste sour? Her mother responds, "no, and how do you know?" Will got me to try some today.”  My boy had some kind of charisma and loved a girl who had a taste for adventure! So, Abby, this recipe for deconstructed ants on a log is for YOU! It might be a fun little appetizer for your Thanksgiving feast.

Ants on a log phyllo cups.

Deconstructed Ants On A Log

Lisa Keys
A fun twist on an old favorite.
5 from 2 votes
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Prep Time 5 minutes mins
Cook Time 5 minutes mins
Total Time 10 minutes mins
Course appetizers
Cuisine American
Servings 5
Calories 128 kcal

Ingredients
  

  • 15 Athens mini fillo shells
  • ⅓ cup whipped cream cheese
  • ¾ cup small dice celery hearts including the tender leaves
  • 3 tablespoons raisins black ants or dried sweetened cranberries (red ants), chopped
  • 1 tablespoon plus 1 teaspoon bottled poppy seed salad dressing.

Instructions
 

  • Fill each shell with about 1 teaspoon cream cheese. In bowl, toss celery, raisins or cranberries and salad dressing. Spoon on top of cream cheese.

Nutrition

Serving: 4 piecesCalories: 128kcalCarbohydrates: 15gProtein: 3gFat: 7gSaturated Fat: 3gPolyunsaturated Fat: 1gMonounsaturated Fat: 2gTrans Fat: 0.002gCholesterol: 15mgSodium: 128mgPotassium: 189mgFiber: 1gSugar: 1gVitamin A: 364IUVitamin C: 2mgCalcium: 32mgIron: 0.3mg
Keyword cream cheese, kid friendly, phyllo cups, snack time
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If you like this recipe for deconstructed ants on a log you may also enjoy crispy cheese cups with elderberry.

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  1. Susan Calhoun

    November 09, 2013 at 1:27 pm

    5 stars
    Wow, this is amazing. Abby came home for the weekend and we did a fundraising 5k for brain cancer research. Guess what shirt Abby wore. Yup, her Will Keys bad-ass shirt! After the race we were sitting in a local bar celebrating (it was kinda-sorta almost noon) and Abby was suddenly in tears. She showed me this post. Will is still reaching out to all of us and sharing his love.

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    • lisakeys64

      November 09, 2013 at 1:32 pm

      It's just good karma and maybe Will has something to do with that. Congrats on the race; you have so much to celebrate. I really do love the ant story.

      Reply
  2. Susan Ross

    November 09, 2013 at 2:39 pm

    I love that story Lisa. Thank you.

    Reply
    • lisakeys64

      November 09, 2013 at 4:28 pm

      I have a rather large supply of stories. He was a very bright star. Thanks for reading.

      Reply
  3. riverdaze

    November 10, 2013 at 4:27 pm

    Here is a quote that seems to sum up how a friend can help those in the midst of grieving...as you explained, not always an easy thing to do because we love you and want to take away some of your pain.

    "The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing... not healing, not curing... that is a friend who cares." Henri Nouwen

    Reply
    • lisakeys64

      November 10, 2013 at 4:49 pm

      Absolutely agree with these beautiful words. This kind of friend has incredible strength and understanding. Being able to simply cry and lean on a friend like this provides a tremendous amount of relief.

      Reply
  4. Lanie

    July 27, 2023 at 1:57 pm

    5 stars
    ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ your recipes and memories always hold me in the heart. Thank you Lisa for being a lighthouse.

    Reply
    • Lisa Keys

      July 27, 2023 at 3:49 pm

      Thanks for being here dear lady. My recipes really do come from places in my heart.

      Reply

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